Mama, I know you’re tired. You know you’re tired. Everyone around you knows you’re tired. Drinking cup after cup of coffee is not going to change that feeling of utter exhaustion that you deal with on a daily basis. Moms who have been doing this for awhile know that you never really feel refreshed or well rested; you just learn to accept that this is life as a parent and you drink another cup of coffee.
So why do we feel this way?
The real reason why we feel so tired is because of all the decisions we make on a daily basis -small, minuscule decisions that we make for our children and our families. After all, we are the glue holding this whole thing together. One wrong decision and we could risk someone getting hurt, sick, turning into spoiled brat or God- forbid evoking a tantrum. That kind of pressure is draining on our energy. Even though we may have not done much physically, that mental over thinking leaves us crawling into bed without an ounce of energy left at the end of the day.
Here’s a peek inside my brain to all the decisions and thoughts I had just at breakfast this morning to give you an idea of what I’m talking about:
- What should we eat for breakfast?
- He’s not eating his food, should I turn something on to watch?
- Should I feed him since he isn’t eating on his own?
- Wow, he just threw his plate of food on the floor. Should I yell or stay calm?
- Okay, I’ll turn something on so that he’ll at least eat something.
- I’ll just feed him a few bites.
- What is he going to do when he goes to school? No one will feed him there.
- Am I setting him up for failure? How will he learn to be independent?
This is what I mean by small decisions that leave you feeling exhausted, and yes I was worn-out after breakfast.
There has to be a way to make decision-making easier each day.
One decision that everyone makes every day is figuring what to wear, and that can be challenging especially after having made so many decisions already, your energy tank is running low and it’s still only morning! Your outfit needs to fit the occasion (work or staying at home), flatter you, and be washed (of course!).
Marie Kondo, author of The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up, begins her popular declutter process with clothing items. She’s says to go through each item one by one and ask yourself, “Does this spark joy?” If it does, keep it. If it doesn’t, get rid of it. She also talks about having a capsule wardrobe: a condensed amount of clothing items that you can mix and match and that look good on you.
So that’s exactly what I did. I CLEANED OUT MY CLOSET. I was left only with a few essential pairs of pants, about 15-20 tops, 5 jackets/cardigans, and 5 pairs of shoes. To be honest, I was a little worried that I wouldn’t have enough clothes to make full outfits, but surprisingly getting ready is so much more smoother and easier. Getting dressed really is one less decision that I have to make, and it feels great! I love everything I wear, and it all flatters me. I get compliments all the time now on how I look “put together” and all while keeping my energy tank on full charge!
I took this a step further and came up with a capsule wardrobe for my toddler as well. Just so that dressing him would be as mindless and simple as possible. It also makes it easier for him to decide what he wants to wear, which makes him feel independent and happy so it’s a win-win for everyone.
So mama, take a couple hours to invest in creating a simple capsule wardrobe for yourself and your children. You’ll thank me later!
This whole process has got me thinking, “Are there any other decisions that I make on a daily basis that I could simplify?” If you have any ideas or thoughts on this please leave a comment below or email me at: [email protected]
Stay Blessed, Sharmin
“Keep only those things that speak to your heart. Then take the plunge and discard all the rest. By doing this, you can reset your life and embark on a new lifestyle.” – Marie Kondo